We don’t have much control over anything in life. But I’ve come to realize how much of a gift this is. Even though we’re taken on a journey through many painful emotions, if we can surrender to our destiny, we’ll end up somewhere better than what we would’ve chosen for ourselves.

I’ve been on this journey myself.

It’s been a long road, but I’ve finally arrived somewhere I can rest. My outer life is peaceful, but more importantly I feel a deep knowing that I’m right where I’m supposed to be, just as I am.

I got here not by taking outside advice, but by listening to my own heart even when it told me to do things that terrified me.

But even following this advice (as most of us know) isn’t as straightforward as it sounds.

In the trenches of everyday life, simple (often cliche) answers such as this can feel too reductive to fully encapsulate what this process actually feels like.

Through the confusion and frustration that came from this, I knew there had to be a deeper answer.

Through ceaseless questioning, I built an understanding that can expand to hold life’s complexity, rather than limit it.

At the heart of this framework is one truth:

You can’t take away any of your pain, but if you can see yourself clearly within it, you can’t help but love what you see.

This is the wisdom that has become my guiding light and my greatest privilege to share with others.